I have always felt that most people around me dont realize their true potential. They dont think a lot, which i believe is quintessential trait for any human. They dont have any specific interest or hobby( movies and cricket are general interests which are excluded). They dont seem to have any big ambition. On the whole, their understandings of the world and their maturity level seems to be far below than what a 21year old youngster is ought to have. Of course, I am no exception from them.
I do not know whether people around me are really as I think them to be or they are such good actors that they project such an image. Assuming that my former assumption is true, I try to find the cause for such apathetic behaviours( At times, if you are too bored, you are tend to do such crazy things).Here I am talking about an average middle-class student which comprises a major percentage of people that I see. Hence, the cause for the problem has to be something really serious.
What actually characterizes the thinkings of a man? One's school, society and the way in which one has been brought up. But I didnt choose the school I wanted to study. Neither did I choose the society I wanted to live. Then who did those for me?
OMG, am I blaming on lovable and innocent parents for our present state. Even, I myself couldnt digest this. But the rational part of my brain which knows only objective thinking says " our parents has to be the culprits". Do I sound like an arrogant and hard-hearted person?
From our young age, every elder we met( even our silver screen heros) portraied parents as noble being and someone higher than all gods. Having given us this impression, parent's responsibilities are immensly huge which doesnt just stop with loving us to the core which ofcourse is a natural law.
I will point the major mistakes,which i feel, a parent generally does( since this is my web page, I can write whatever i feel like and you are bound to read it.LOL!!!!!)
1) First and foremost problem with parents is that they dont encourage creativity and innovation as much as they should be . My parents would have been happier if I had been a district topper in board exams than be a national topper in some science-talent exam. Encouraging creativity and innovation makes the child a good thinker which ultimately makes the child to ask more of WHY and HOW questions rather than just WHAT and WHEN questions.
2) I personally believe traits like confidence, willpower, self-esteem etc are much more important than petty traits like cleanliness and punctuality.Unfortunately, parents emphazis on those petty traits leaving the vital ones. I have been scolded an umpteen times for keeping my room untidy.But I have never been scolded for being a stage-fright.
3) Most of the middle-class familiy's only goal would be to have a secure and wealthier life style which means to have a fat salary. In this process, the child's inborn interest is diminished.In the worst case, the interest is never found at all.
Take,for example, a doctor. He always says the advantages of his profession to his child. Hearing these from very young age, the child develops an interest to become a doctor, due to which the child's actual interest is never found. Isn't this like moulding a clay to whatever shape we want?
Hence parents has to emphazis that a fulfilling life must be the ultimate goal rather than a materialistic life.For this to happen, first, parents has to realize this.
4) Other important thing is that parents dont let their children out of a very small circle.Hence the child doesnt get to know a lot of things.Maybe, this is what parents want. I believe, there is nothing wrong in knowing bad things. The problem is only when the child starts to learn those bad things.
If any parent reads this their first response would be " be a parent and you would know how it would feel like to bring up a child ". This one response cant be the answer to all the mistakes I have mentioned.Or is it?
When I re-read it, I feel( its a bit lengthy and boring) I have blamed more than enough on parents. Actually, as an individual, shouldnt we be the one who should be blamed more than our parents. I am an Indian. I dont need anyone to teach me to blame on others without any twinge of guilt. Its in my blood.
by prem
I do not know whether people around me are really as I think them to be or they are such good actors that they project such an image. Assuming that my former assumption is true, I try to find the cause for such apathetic behaviours( At times, if you are too bored, you are tend to do such crazy things).Here I am talking about an average middle-class student which comprises a major percentage of people that I see. Hence, the cause for the problem has to be something really serious.
What actually characterizes the thinkings of a man? One's school, society and the way in which one has been brought up. But I didnt choose the school I wanted to study. Neither did I choose the society I wanted to live. Then who did those for me?
OMG, am I blaming on lovable and innocent parents for our present state. Even, I myself couldnt digest this. But the rational part of my brain which knows only objective thinking says " our parents has to be the culprits". Do I sound like an arrogant and hard-hearted person?
From our young age, every elder we met( even our silver screen heros) portraied parents as noble being and someone higher than all gods. Having given us this impression, parent's responsibilities are immensly huge which doesnt just stop with loving us to the core which ofcourse is a natural law.
I will point the major mistakes,which i feel, a parent generally does( since this is my web page, I can write whatever i feel like and you are bound to read it.LOL!!!!!)
1) First and foremost problem with parents is that they dont encourage creativity and innovation as much as they should be . My parents would have been happier if I had been a district topper in board exams than be a national topper in some science-talent exam. Encouraging creativity and innovation makes the child a good thinker which ultimately makes the child to ask more of WHY and HOW questions rather than just WHAT and WHEN questions.
2) I personally believe traits like confidence, willpower, self-esteem etc are much more important than petty traits like cleanliness and punctuality.Unfortunately, parents emphazis on those petty traits leaving the vital ones. I have been scolded an umpteen times for keeping my room untidy.But I have never been scolded for being a stage-fright.
3) Most of the middle-class familiy's only goal would be to have a secure and wealthier life style which means to have a fat salary. In this process, the child's inborn interest is diminished.In the worst case, the interest is never found at all.
Take,for example, a doctor. He always says the advantages of his profession to his child. Hearing these from very young age, the child develops an interest to become a doctor, due to which the child's actual interest is never found. Isn't this like moulding a clay to whatever shape we want?
Hence parents has to emphazis that a fulfilling life must be the ultimate goal rather than a materialistic life.For this to happen, first, parents has to realize this.
4) Other important thing is that parents dont let their children out of a very small circle.Hence the child doesnt get to know a lot of things.Maybe, this is what parents want. I believe, there is nothing wrong in knowing bad things. The problem is only when the child starts to learn those bad things.
If any parent reads this their first response would be " be a parent and you would know how it would feel like to bring up a child ". This one response cant be the answer to all the mistakes I have mentioned.Or is it?
When I re-read it, I feel( its a bit lengthy and boring) I have blamed more than enough on parents. Actually, as an individual, shouldnt we be the one who should be blamed more than our parents. I am an Indian. I dont need anyone to teach me to blame on others without any twinge of guilt. Its in my blood.
by prem
